Its actually a mixture of both.
I feel uncomfortable talking to them because I don't feel they get where I'm coming from, when they finally figure out that I'm pissy or frustrated they'll ask me what's wrong, and after convincing me that it'll be alright to say something, I start to say what's on my mind and somewhere down the line comes "Hold on, can I stop you there?" Followed by their reasoning on why I'm in the wrong or whatever.
Mom's response to me feeling like she was wanting me out last month was basically her saying stuff like "You need to act like you want to live here", which apparently means doing chores when they don't tell me what they want me to do (And when they do tell me, its when I'm half-asleep or when I'm sleeping before they leave for work or something.)